Monday, November 22, 2010
Taking a Leap of Faith
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
WiFi at the Millenium Knickerbocker Hotel
After I checked into the hotel, I tried accessing the internet. I had paid for a wireless connection, but I couldn't for the life of me connect. I made sure I followed all the written directions, then I called the front desk to ask if there was a trick I was missing. The front desk clerk asked me to hold on, and the next thing I knew I was talking to a tech support rep somewhere else in the country. They tracked the problem down to non-functioning routers, but were unable to fix the issue.
The next morning as I was reviewing my bill, I noticed they had deleted the charge for the wireless, but they added a charge for a long distance phone call. Apparently when the front desk clerk transferred me - without asking me first - she added the charge to my account.
Unbelievable. They couldn't provide me with the service for which I paid, I ask for help, and they charge me for the help.
Another example of less-than-stellar customer service.
After a quick trip to the front desk, I had the additional charge removed.
Thursday, September 23, 2010
How Is Math Taught Today?
The cashier gave her $17.97 in change.
The lady tried to give the coins back, but the cashier couldn't understand. The supervisor standing at the end of the counter helping to bag the groceries didn't understand either. The lady gave up and took the extra money.
I admit, I thought to myself when I saw the money being exchanged that I rarely see cash as a form of payment anymore. Is this an indication of how little cash is used now? Did the cashier not know what to do because she rarely handles cash? Even so, this was an easy math problem........
Monday, August 9, 2010
My Hair Is Returning!
The worst part about hair loss following chemotherapy is losing your eyelashes, in my opinion. My eyes watered all the time! I felt like I constantly needed to explain that I wasn't crying - I truly did have dust or something in my eyes.
I'm holding on to my scarves and hats for now. This summer has been so hot and humid that I've been forgoing wearing any, but I'm guessing that's going to change in another month. I hope that when I do decide I'm done with the hats and scarves, I'm able to find somewhere to donate them.
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Thursday, July 29, 2010
I'm Saying No to Southwest Airlines.
"Dear April,
I am so sorry that you feel you weren’t able to enjoy the benefits of your Business Select Fare on your June 26 flight. As a valued Southwest Customer, your feedback is very important to us. I am grateful for this opportunity to respond to your concerns and, of course, apologize.
While we, of course, offer preboarding to any Customer with specific seating needs or who need assistance boarding, out of respect for all of our Customers and to maintain the integrity of our boarding/seating system, these Customers should only have one additional person accompany them onboard the aircraft.
We do not have a policy that prohibits saving seats; however, when other Customers inquire about the availability of a particular saved seat, we would hope that our Customers would stick to the “Golden Rule.” That said, we sincerely regret this particular Customer diminished the quality of your flight experience with us.
Furthermore, we regret that you feel you didn’t receive the highest level of Customer Service at the San Diego (SAN) ticket counter. All Southwest Airlines Employees are expected to be friendly, helpful, and, above all else, courteous to all of our Customers who are kind enough to grant us their business. It is clear that you are disappointed with the Customer Service you received, and we are sorry that your experience was not indicative of the considerate and professional service that we strive to provide.
We appreciate your providing us with the details of your experience, and our Staff has ensured that your correspondence has been properly indexed and attributed to the appropriate areas. Additionally, your comments have been summarized and provided to our Senior Leaders for their review.
Your business means the world to us. It's our hope that you will continue flying Southwest Airlines for many years to come.
Sincerely,
Shawn, Southwest Airlines"
The customer with specific needs referred to in the note was a person in a wheelchair who needed preboarding privileges. I understand that need, and have no issue with that need. However, this particular customer put jackets, purses and bags across the first three full rows (on both sides of the cabin) for a total of twelve seats, saving them for her family - who boarded in the last group.
This response does not give me warm fuzzies, nor does it make me feel like they appreciate my business. Accordingly, they won't be getting any further business from me.
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Photographers at Tourist Traps
Unless you really want this token of remembrance, just say no, people! Say no, forcefully if needed, and walk by!
How many trees are killed with these printed photos people don't buy? How many chemicals are used in the processing?
I believe the model needs revamping. Digital photography is everywhere. Print-on-demand services proliferate. Change it up so the photos aren't printed until the patron says yes.
I'd be more likely to stand there and let you take the photo if I knew it wasn't going to be printed. Give me a chance to see a digital representation right after you take it, and once again after the attraction if I didn't buy it the first time I saw it, but please don't print it if I don't want it.
Ok, I'm done with my rant for the day.
Sunday, July 4, 2010
Independence Day
"Here's a simple act of patriotism for this weekend: Don't call it 'the Fourth of July.' Call it 'Independence Day.' It's not just another day on the calendar, right?"
Yes, this is right.
I'm thankful I'm an American citizen. I have a list of basic rights by simply being born in this country. Across the globe many people, especially women and children, cannot claim these same rights. All I did to claim these rights is to be lucky enough to be born in the correct geographic location. Millions of people have died to keep our country free and allow all born here to claim these basic human rights.
The least I can do is honor the holiday with its correct name, Independence Day.
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
How Much Is Enough?
I admit I don’t want it all.
Sometime in the last few decades, American society decided women should want to do everything under the sun: marry, raise children, have careers, participate in their children’s activities and take time for health and exercise, among other things. I’ve heard this idea referred to as being “Wonder Woman.” Didn’t anyone ever notice that Wonder Woman didn’t have children?
I’m 42 years old. I am unable to have children of my own. I have no wish to adopt. Somehow, this makes me either worth pity or selfish and in need of feeling guilt. I ask why?
I have a fantastic husband, a dream job with a great company, good friends and family nearby. We have a mortgage and car payments, but no credit card debt. We can travel when we want. We spoil our nieces and nephew. We donate to charity. I feel fulfilled. This life, to me, is the definition of “having it all.”
My husband and I tired of hearing “when are you going to start a family?” about fifteen years ago. We ordered special license plates for our cars that read NO KIDZ in response. That did stop a lot of people from asking but it didn’t stop the pity, nor did it stop the guilt trips.
“You don’t know what you’re missing until you see it through your child’s eyes.” Maybe. However, I know I’m not missing dirty diapers, crying tantrums, the colds that pass around the family non-stop or always being tired. I don’t doubt there are many rewards when you’re a parent. I see it with family and friends. I still don’t believe that being a parent is for me. I resent the implication that I’m less of a person or that I’m selfish because I don’t want children.
My husband is not pitied for being childless, nor is he made to feel guilty for choosing not to be a parent. All I ask for is the same respect for the choices I’ve made.
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Ghosts of Employers Past
In the shower this morning, it occurred to me that the worst bosses I’ve had have been the ones that let their personal lives affect work in a hugely negative way. They may have been perfectly qualified to do the work they were hired to do, but their interpersonal skills when it came to employees sucked. For example, I once worked for someone who was very knowledgeable and carried a lot of clout. After working in the company for a month, I lost almost all respect for him. Why? He was having an affair. It was an expected part of our jobs to hide his affair from his wife and children. We were minions to do his bidding, not really considered equals. What he did on his own time was his own business, but the minute he made it mine - and made me compromise my own integrity as a condition of employment - he lost my respect. If any of us had been forcing him to compromise his integrity on the job, he would not have hesitated to fire us. I remember feeling horrible every time I lied to his wife or children, and yet I felt trapped because I needed that job.
Not every situation is black and white, and sometimes you have to choose the lesser evil. What came out of that situation, for me, was a resolve not to place anyone I manage in any situation that would compromise their standards of integrity. I have no way of knowing if I’ve fully succeeded; I sincerely hope I have. If I don’t, I hope I’m called out on it.
Sunday, January 24, 2010
Where I've Been
It was a twisted road just getting to the diagnosis. I can't help but wonder how many people are out there, undiagnosed, simply because they accept what their doctors tell them without question.
My journey began with a simple prescription refill. I take Zoloft on a daily basis for anxiety. I was running low on pills, and didn't relish going back to the doctor I'd seen in the last year. As anyone who has taken this type of medicine knows, quitting cold turkey is not an option. Long story short, I needed an ally in my health battles, not a judgmental authority figure. I did a bit of a search, and found a general practitioner who has a special interest in women's health issues. Bonus: her office is less than ten minutes from my house.
I went in for my first appointment with her at the beginning of September. I've been diagnosed with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) in the past. We discussed various treatment options, and she did the normal annual screenings. I was having some pretty severe menstrual problems, to the point where I told her I'd be happy to have a hysterectomy and be done. We both agreed it would be best for me to see a gynecologist. She set up a referral.
Now, a bit of background. I've dealt with severe menstrual problems for over a decade. I'll spare you all the details here, except to say I've seen several doctors, including a reproductive endocinologist. Each time, I was sent home with, "you're perfectly normal, aside from the PCOS." The only treatment options I was given made me ill, and when I expressed that, I was told to simply put up with it.
So I saw a gynecologist at a local clinic at the end of September. He did an exam, and prescribed norethindrone. When that failed, he set up a few more tests, including an endometrial biopsy. This is an in-office procedure that can be fairly routine - as long as you've had children or a procdure to dialate your cervix in the past. I had not. I was not instructed to take anything (such as ibuprofen) beforehand. It was an excruitiating experience, and he was not able to get the biopsy he needed. He scheduled a D&C for mid-October.
The D&C was routine. The pathology report came back stating, "endometrial hyperplasia without atypia." This means there were some abnormal cells, but nothing cancerous. After the D&C, my bleeding was so severe I had to have a blood transfusion on November 6th.
This doctor's recommended treatment for my condition was to insert the Mirena IUD. Once again, keep in mind I've never had children. All the research I've done on Mirena, and IUDs in general, do NOT recommend inserting them in women who have never had children. Further research on my part found research studies ongoing using the Mirena to treat PCOS. Ok, so at this point my feeling is that I'm becoming a guinea pig. I'm uncomfortable with the recommendation, frustrated that things have become so bad I needed a transfusion, and disillusioned in general. I started asking my colleagues for doctor recommendations.
I made an appointment with a new doctor for mid-November. It took him less than two minutes to tell me my uterus was enlarged about three times the size of normal. Because the previous doctor had not done a PAP smear, and it had been about eighteen months since my last one, he also took that sample.
The PAP came back abnormal. I had a colposcopy on December 3rd. During the procedure, he noticed some abnormal cells that concerned him, and decided to do an endometrial biopsy. This time, the procedure went without a problem. The colposcopy samples were benign, but the endometrial biopsy showed possible cancerous cells. He was stumped - I had just had a D&C less than two months previous that should have revealed any cancer. Back to the operating room for another D&C on December 15th.
December 18th, the pathology report came back with the diagnosis: uterine papillary serous cancer, grade 3 cells. This is an uncommon, aggressive form of cancer that acts quite a bit like ovarian cancer. I had a total abominal hysterectomy on January 15th, and am currently awaiting the staging. I'm facing chemotheraphy. The surgeon also found that I had extensive endometriosis - and probably have had this for some time.
I'm still stunned. If I hadn't listened to my body, to my intuition saying there's something more here, I'd be sitting here with a Mirena IUD, and cancer that would be spreading.
Listen to your intuition. Be your own advocate. Gather as much information as you can. Don't take no for an answer.
Thursday, January 7, 2010
this life keeps moving on
gone away before too long
so tell your friends just how you feel
you'd better say it loud for the world to hear
'cause it's getting late, it's time to go
the paper moon is fading slow
but the night, it keeps moving on
'til it takes you in; it brings you home
while you're watching over the moments that make up your life
it's getting late that's the way it is
you cant deny when it feels like this
and it's strange whats it's bringing out
you're gonna open up, 'cause you cant stop now
it's getting late, you don't know how
you're wide awake, but you're missing out
you get your kicks while you can
then you go to work to pay the man
while you're watching over the moments that make up your life
it's getting late